“Sticky floor. Loud tears. We hug longer. Breathe slow… like sleepy dragons. 🤗”
— Nana
Sticky floors and loud tears aren’t mistakes—they’re signs your child is learning to feel, to need, to trust. In those messy moments, love doesn’t shout—it whispers through hugs that last a little longer.
Hey mama, papa, caregiver—you’re doing better than you think. I’ve seen hundreds of little hearts calm down when big hands just hold them. Breathe slow… like sleepy dragons. You’ve got this.
What it means for your child
No matter their age, your child needs to feel safe before they can learn or play.
- Babies: A baby cries with small fists and tired eyes—hold them close, chest to chest, until their breathing matches yours.
- Toddlers: Toddlers scream when words fail; a tight hug says, 'I’m here,' before they can say it themselves.
- Preschoolers: Preschoolers melt into hugs after tantrums—let them cry on your shoulder, no rush, no fixing yet.
- School-age kids: School-age kids might pretend they’re fine—offer a quiet hug after dinner. They’ll lean in, even if they don’t say thank you.
Try this tonight
Tonight, when the day feels heavy, try this:
- Sit on the floor—no standing. Make eye contact if they’ll let you.
- Wrap your arms around them gently. Don’t ask why they’re upset—just hold.
- Breathe in through your nose for four counts, out through your mouth for six. Do it slowly, like a sleepy dragon.
Words you can use
- “I’ve got you.”
- “Take your time.”
- “We’ll breathe together.”
At Nana’s Place
Nana's Place cares for children from 6 weeks to 12 years old, with day, evening and overnight care at two buildings in Glendale. We'd love to meet your family. Book a tour.
Questions parents ask
How do I calm a crying toddler without giving in to demands?
Hold them gently and stay calm. Your steady presence tells them they’re safe, even when they feel out of control. Avoid distractions—just be there.
Why does my child need a hug after a tantrum?
Tantrums are their way of releasing big feelings. A hug helps their nervous system reset—it’s not reward, it’s reassurance.
Is it okay to let my child cry alone in their room?
For young children, crying alone can feel scary. Stay nearby—even if you don’t speak—to let them know they’re not alone.
