Patience is love that waits. If you’ve wondered how to be more patient with your toddler, try one small trick: count to five before you help.
Little legs are short. Little hands are still learning. Little minds need time to find the words. When we’re tired or late, waiting can feel impossible. But those few seconds tell your child, “You matter more than the clock.”
What it means for your child
Here’s what waiting can look like at each age. Remember, today’s tiny steps are tomorrow’s big adventures.
- Babies: They need time to work things out, like how to roll over or reach a toy. Watch for a moment before you step in.
- Toddlers: Slow on stairs, slow with shoes, slow to say what they want. A little waiting gives them room to try.
- Preschoolers: Finding the right words can take a while. Wait while they tell you their long, winding story.
- School-age kids: Homework and hard feelings take time to think through. Try not to hand them the answer right away.
Try this tonight
Tonight, try the count-to-five pause. It’s simple, but it takes practice.
- When your child gets stuck on something, stop and count to five in your head.
- While you count, keep your face soft and your hands still.
- After five, ask, “Want some help?” and let them choose.
Words you can use
- “Take your time. I’m listening.”
- “No rush. You’ve got this.”
- “I’ll wait for you.”
At Nana’s Place
At Nana’s Place, we care for children from 6 weeks to 12 years old at our Peoria and Northern buildings in Glendale, with day, evening and overnight care. We believe patience is one of the kindest gifts a grown-up can give. If you’d like to meet us and see our space, book a tour.
Questions parents ask
How can I be more patient with my toddler when I’m tired?
Plan for slow. Leave a few extra minutes, lower your voice and take one slow breath before you answer. You won’t be patient every time, and that’s okay. Try again tomorrow.
Should I let my child struggle a little?
A little struggle is how kids learn, as long as they’re safe. Waiting a few seconds gives them a chance. If they get too upset, step in and help.
Every “I did it!” starts with “Can I try?”, and every “Can I try?” needs a grown-up who can wait.
